Breaking the illusions we have of others

We have to trust people everyday.  For example, we trust that airline pilots, bus drivers and other auto drivers in traffic will do the right thing.   Beyond this more temporary trust, do we really trust people to never make mistakes or disappoint us?

Our unrealistic expectations – The truth is, many of us have built up unrealistic expectations of people.  When we first meet someone, there is that new excitement of a relationship and we expect him or her to live up to the imagined view we have of them. People, including us, cannot live up to high expectations.  They may feel the crushing pressure we put on them to live up to our illusions.  Also, over time, people inevitably do things that hurt us and we experience the deep pangs of disappointment.

God’s realistic expectations – We know from the word of God that all people, including ourselves, are broken, fallible creatures capable of sin and hurting others.

“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? Jeremiah 17:9

Does that mean we should become cynical and bitter towards people?  Not at all.  Christ gave us the model:

Christ understood people, so he did not entrust himself them. But he Loved them.  In John 2:24, as Christ looked over the multitude of people in Jerusalem, it says “But Jesus did not commit himself unto them, because he knew all men.”  What does this mean?   Jesus knew the fickle and sinful hearts of people, so his expectation was realistic.  Jesus decided ahead of time not to have illusion of people.  Yet Jesus loved people so much that he died and suffered beyond what we can ever know to save them.   He was never cynical; he trusted his father God.

Only God can meet your expectations.  Have people let you down?   Then trust the only one who will never let you down – God through Jesus.   Focus on God.  Be grateful and let the Lord fill you with his love and forgiveness.

See  James MacDonald – When it’s hard to trust